Own Your O: How to Celebrate International Female Orgasm Day

Jan 01, 2025

On August 8th International Female Orgasm Day is here to remind you that pleasure isn’t a luxury, it’s your birthright.

Born in Brazil, this day was created by councilman Arimateo Dantas to flip the narrative and put female pleasure at the forefront, where it belongs.

But this day isn’t about just hitting a “goal” or having a perfect moment. It’s about raising awareness about female sexuality and sexual pleasure, reconnecting with your body, owning your desires, and treating your orgasm as the celebration of you that it truly is.

In this article, we are diving into how you can make this day an unapologetic ode to your sensual power:

Why Female Pleasure Matters

Female pleasure isn’t a luxury, it’s medicine. But let’s break this down beyond the clichés. When you let pleasure guide you, you’re fine-tuning how you move through life. Think of it as updating your “internal software” so your system isn’t running on outdated beliefs that prioritize survival over thriving.

When was the last time you let yourself feel, not just contentment, but deep, body-awakening pleasure without guilt? Society has conditioned us to believe that pleasure is earned, transactional, or even dangerous. But here’s the truth: when you prioritize feeling good, your nervous system gets the message that you’re safe. Safe enough to soften, to take up space, and to own your life.

Pleasure is also the ultimate reset for burnout. Real pleasure invites you to reconnect with your body in a way that melts resentment and energizes your whole being. Orgasm offfer numerous health benefits, it transforms stress into fuel and reminds you that you don’t need to be on the defense to stay strong.

Emotional Empowerment

Pleasure isn’t just about the “high.” It’s also about learning to sit in the quiet tenderness that follows. That’s where the emotional empowerment lives, in your ability to stay open when every old story is begging you to shut down.

Every time you say yes to your pleasure, you’re rewriting the script:

From overthinking to trusting your instincts.
From withholding to receiving with ease.
From holding your breath to exhaling with confidence.

Next time you’re spiraling in self-doubt or overwhelm, ask yourself: What is my body craving in this exact moment? Is it touch, breath, stillness, or movement? Let your body guide you instead of your mind, and notice how quickly that one act changes the narrative from “fixing” yourself to feeling yourself.

Pleasure also reminds you that you're more than what you endure. When you anchor yourself in your sensations, you’re no longer chasing someone else’s version of success, you’re defining power on your terms.

This is how you turn pleasure into a practice of rebellion and radical worthiness. And in that process, you go from simply "getting through life" to owning it completely.

Breaking Cultural Barriers

For generations, cultural and religious stigmas have painted female pleasure as dangerous, shameful, or even irrelevant, a topic wrapped in silence. These unspoken rules live in the way women shrink when discussing their bodies, in the discomfort of unmet needs, and in the idea that pleasure must be justified.

International Female Orgasm Day flips that narrative on its head. It’s a global reckoning that confronts the idea that female pleasure is taboo. It’s a day that reclaims pleasure as essential to well-being, autonomy, and self-worth. Conversations about orgasms are about healing centuries of shame embedded in our bones.

When we dare to speak up, when we share stories of our journeys and claim pleasure as our birthright, we create ripple effects that reshape everything. We’re not just rewriting narratives; we’re dismantling them and building something entirely new: a world where young girls grow up knowing their bodies belong to them, not to judgment, religion, or expectations.

Breaking these barriers takes courage. It’s about raising the kind of questions that make rooms go quiet and then filling that silence with truth.

International Female Orgasm Day is about raising awareness of women's sexuality and celebrating their right to pleasure.

It starts with small, everyday moments: correcting harmful jokes, sharing truths in intimate conversations, and inviting people into deeper discussions.
It continues by creating safe spaces, where daughters, sisters, and friends grow up understanding that autonomy is non-negotiable and that their pleasure isn’t a liability, it’s a form of power.

Self-Discovery

Pleasure isn’t a quick release—it’s an unfolding, a map back to yourself. True self-discovery through pleasure is about pausing long enough to ask: What does my body actually want? It’s a practice of listening beneath the surface, to the whispers your body sends long before you reach for anyone else’s touch.

International Female Orgasm Day helps women gain greater awareness of their bodies and sexual pleasure, encouraging open discussions about women's sexuality in cultures where it is often considered taboo.

For some women, this journey starts with unlearning, the belief that your pleasure is secondary or that certain parts of you don’t deserve softness. But the moment you choose curiosity over conditioning, everything changes. When you explore your body with presence and tenderness, you begin to see yourself not just as a vessel for others’ desires, but as a world of sensations, memories, and power.

Anatomy of Female Pleasure: What You Should Know

The Clitoris

The clitoris is the centerpiece of your pleasure map, with over 8,000 nerve endings packed into its tip alone. But what you see is just the tip of an iceberg made for sensation. Beneath the surface, the clitoris extends into an internal wishbone-shaped structure with crura (leg-like extensions) and bulbs that wrap around your vaginal canal. When you’re aroused, these bulbs swell, amplifying everything you feel during penetration and external touch.

Why is this important? Because knowing the full structure of the clitoris helps you shift from thinking, “Why doesn’t this one thing work for me?” to realizing that your pleasure is a 3D experience, not a one-trick pony. Some people find magic in external touch alone, while others need deeper stimulation that reaches those internal clitoral branches.

Experiment with pressure and movement. Try circular motions, a light tapping touch, or even a warming massage oil to change the way sensation builds. And don’t forget: slow isn’t boring, it’s the key to tuning into what feels delicious.

The G-Spot

The G-spot is infamous, but it’s not some elusive treasure chest, it’s part of the internal clitoral network, specifically along the upper vaginal wall about two inches in. It’s a bit spongier than the surrounding tissue and responds to pressure more than friction. The sensation isn’t necessarily the same as external clitoral stimulation, it can feel fuller, more like a deep pulse than a surface tingle.

Think of the G-spot as the sensation “amplifier.” When touched with intention, it can create a sensation that spreads outward, involving your whole pelvic area.

Use a curved wand or your fingers and apply slow, rhythmic pressure, almost like a massage. Breathe deeply and tune into how your body reacts. If the sensation feels uncomfortable, adjust your angle or slow down. Sometimes the G-spot "awakens" gradually, so it’s okay if it doesn’t feel fireworks-worthy right away.

The G-spot responds to how emotionally and mentally present you are. If you’re distracted or tense, it’s harder to connect with the sensation.

Vaginal Walls

The vaginal walls are full of sensitive nerve endings, but they don’t all react the same way. Some areas may be more responsive than others, and the sensations can shift depending on your emotional state and how relaxed your body feels. These walls can contract and pulse during arousal.

Vaginal pleasure is linked to more than just the physical, it thrives when your nervous system feels safe and open. Ever noticed that intimacy feels different when you’re fully present versus when you’re anxious or rushed? That’s your body responding to emotional safety.

Use a soft, exploratory touch along the walls with your fingers or a wand. Focus on different areas, like the lower or side walls, and notice where you feel the most sensation. If you find areas of tension, pause and breathe into them, almost like you’re sending relaxation there. The more you build trust with your body, the more responsive it becomes.

The Cervix: A Portal of Deep Sensation

The cervix can be polarizing. Some women describe the sensation as deeply expansive and blissful, while others experience discomfort, numbness, or even a strong emotional reaction. It holds emotional imprints, unspoken boundaries, and vulnerability you’ve learned to tuck away to survive.

Pain or lack of pleasure at the cervix is often your body’s way of signaling “slow down, I’m not ready.” The tension you feel may be your body guarding itself because it hasn’t had enough time to fully soften and open. Deep pleasure in this space comes from honoring your body’s pacing—not rushing to "achieve" something.

How to Invite Your Cervix to Open with Trust:

Time + Intention: Allow at least 20 minutes of arousal and foreplay (solo or partnered) before touching the cervix. This allows blood flow and relaxation to reach the area, preparing it to receive rather than brace.
Slow, Still Touch: The cervix responds best to stillness and deep presence rather than rapid, shallow movements. Try pressing the cervix gently and holding rather than stroking. Let your breath lead the way.
Release "Armor": Most women hold some level of physical or emotional tension (often called “armor”) in their cervix due to trauma, shame, or simply years of ignoring this space. Yoni massage, especially using a tool like the Cervix Wand™ by WAANDS™, can gently dissolve this tension, helping you feel more open, responsive, and emotionally free.

You’re Built for Pleasure

Your cervix holds your stories. The unspoken "no’s," the times you powered through when your body whispered for rest, the vulnerability you’ve learned to tuck away just to survive. The Cervix Wand™ by WAANDS™ is here to help you unpack that weight and set it down.

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A Ritual, Not a Routine: This is a practice of showing up for yourself. Use the wand when you’re ready to release what’s been building up and discover just how soft, open, and free you can feel.

Most of us live in survival mode, disconnected from what we’re really holding in our bodies. But when you give yourself permission to lean into sensation, your cervix becomes a place of release, not resistance. The tears, the tingles, the relief, they’re proof that you’re learning to trust yourself again.

This is about reminding yourself that you don’t need to settle for numbness, or keep holding your breath. You’re worthy of softness. Of ease. Of pleasure that doesn’t ask you to “perform,” but invites you to simply be.

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How to Celebrate International Female Orgasm Day

International Female Orgasm Day is a call to action. It’s a bold reminder that your pleasure isn’t just valid, it’s revolutionary. National Orgasm Day, celebrated on July 31, also aims to raise awareness about sexual pleasure and break societal taboos, making it a platform for discussing topics related to sexual health and pleasure. So, how do you celebrate a day dedicated to unapologetic pleasure? You lean all the way in.

Here’s how you can turn this day into a celebration of your body, your desires, and your worth:

Educate Yourself Like the Queen You Are

Knowledge is pleasure’s greatest wingwoman. When you understand your body, your anatomy, your pleasure points, and what lights you up—, ou’re stepping into full autonomy. Make time for discovering how your body speaks to you.

Ideas for Exploration:

Join Viva La Vagina™: An online membership designed for women to dive into sensual discovery, reconnect with their bodies, and tap into their orgasmic potential. With expert-led lessons and guided practices, it’s your go-to space for learning how to fully embody your pleasure and step into your sensual power.
Dive into Books That Make You Feel Seen: Start with favorites like The Vagina Bible or Come As You Are—books that dismantle shame and give you empowering, science-backed insights.
Find Your Pleasure People: Join communities where vulnerability and real talk replace stigma and silence. Spaces where it’s safe to ask questions and celebrate your wins—whether it’s your first body-love ritual or your loudest "O" yet.

Create a Self-Care Ritual That Drips with Intention

Pleasure thrives in an environment where you feel safe, relaxed, and fully present. Instead of rushing or making it feel like an afterthought, create a ritual that feels like worship, because it is.

✨ Build Your Pleasure Sanctuary:

Set the mood with calming scents (think sandalwood, jasmine, or rose) and dim lighting.
Use soft, grounding music that makes your body hum in anticipation.
Explore pleasure tools that align with your vibe, whether that’s a crystal wand or body oil that feels like silk against your skin.

If you’re ready for a deeper dive into self-discovery, the Viva La Vagina™ Membership offers over 100 guided lessons and practices designed to help you explore pleasure as a practice of healing and empowerment. From yoni massage techniques to breathwork that unlocks deeper arousal, you’ll have everything you need to transform your rituals into revelations.

Open Up Conversations Like They’re Sacred

There’s real power in breaking the silence around female pleasure. Whether it’s a casual coffee chat with friends or a heart-to-heart with a partner, normalizing these conversations turns taboo into truth. When you talk openly about your body and your pleasure, you give others permission to do the same.

✨ Pro Tip: Instead of diving into heavy conversations right away, start with curiosity:

“Have you ever thought about how much we don’t learn about female pleasure growing up?”
“Why do you think it’s easier to talk about work stress than what makes us feel alive?”

These simple openings make space for honesty without forcing it. You’re inviting, not confronting.

Support Organizations That Fight for Pleasure Rights

Pleasure is political. For too long, access to sexual health education has been limited and stigmatized. Change happens when we invest in organizations that advocate for women’s empowerment, sexual health, and body autonomy.

✨ Ways to Make an Impact:

Donate to nonprofits that fight for sex education reform and accessible healthcare.
Support brands that are body-positive and inclusive in their messaging.

Your dollar is a vote. Use it to back the movements and messages you believe in.

Throw a Celebration That’s as Bold as You Are

Who says International Female Orgasm Day can’t be a party? Gather your friends for a body-positive celebration that feels equal parts empowering and playful.

✨ Event Ideas:

Host a sensual movement workshop, because moving your body with freedom is an act of defiance.
Include mindfulness or breathwork sessions focused on embodiment and connection.
Create a space for resource-sharing—books, podcasts, and products that have changed your self-love journey.

The goal? To remind yourself and others that pleasure is something to be celebrated, not whispered about.

Conclusion

Your pleasure is a declaration of self-worth in a world that profits from keeping you disconnected from your body. Every time you choose to tune in, to honor your sensations, and to claim your desires, you’re rejecting narratives that tell women to shrink, to settle, and to endure.

Celebrating this day means leaning into your body’s wisdom unapologetically. It means making space for joy and aliveness, not as a rare indulgence but as a daily practice of rebellion. When you celebrate your pleasure, you rewrite the story of your body from something to be managed to something to be worshiped.

So, whether you’re celebrating International Female Orgasm Day with a full-blown pleasure ritual, an honest conversation, or a dance party in your living room, remember: